How do you talk to children about a death in the family?

Use clear language rather than euphemisms — 'passed away', 'gone to sleep' or 'we lost them' confuses young children and can create fear of sleeping or being lost. Say the person died, that their body stopped working, and that it is not coming back. Answer questions honestly and briefly, and expect the same questions repeatedly as they process it. Let them see adults grieving, which teaches that sadness is survivable. Include them in rituals in an age-appropriate way if they want. Watch for changes lasting beyond a few weeks, particularly in sleep, appetite or school.