My husband and I are fine. But I miss being wanted.

We have been married 11 years. He is a decent, kind man. We do not fight. We divide chores fairly, he remembers my mother's birthday, we watch the same series. And yet, I cannot remember the last time he looked at me the way he did in the first years. Or the last time I looked at him that way, if I am being honest. Affection has become logistics. A pat on the shoulder on the way to the kitchen. I am not sure if this is a problem to fix or a stage to accept. I cannot say this to my friends because their marriages are visibly worse. So I am saying it here.